What to do when you're turned off by men's pictures online

What to do when you’re turned off by men’s pictures online

Years ago, I was at a friend’s home having dinner with 3 other couples.

We spent the night laughing and talking about everything under the sun whether it was the latest movie we’d seen, a heated political discussion, or something as simple as what was going on with our kids and work.

I remember taking a really good look at the men seated around the table wondering just how they’d do on a dating site.

They were all interesting, successful men I’d known for years and to me, each one of them was engaging, warm, and fun to be around along with cute in their own way.

But one looked older than he was, another had a pouch and the last one looked a bit nerdy and was going bald.

Chance are if you’d seen pictures of them on a dating site, you’d have passed up these great men.

Why?

Because it’s so easy to make snap decisions about who a man is based on a single online dating site picture.

Here’s the thing . . . man you’ve knocked out online for not being cute enough might look really appealing when you see a combination of how their looks and personality work together in real life.

Women miss meeting good men all the time because they literally can’t see a good guy under a not-so-good picture.

One of the reasons scammers do so well even with intelligent successful women (who like other women have been scammed out of hundreds of thousands of dollars) is they post pictures of really good-looking men they’ve stolen off the internet.

Scammers know you’ll be intrigued and thrilled that such a good-looking man picked you.

I’ve written about scammers in the past. If you want to know more about them, you can check out the two blogs below so you can discover how to quickly identify this type of man.

3 Tips to Keep You Safe from Men Like Bravo TV’s Dirty John

How to Stay Safe From Scammers On Dating Sites

Now back to the guy with the not so great picture (not talking about the guys who do bathroom selfies or pictures with their shirts off. I’m talking about the guy who is basically Average Joe) . . .

Here’s what I’d like you to do next time you’re online . . . and I know it might not sit well with you BUT . . . give the “not as good-looking” guy a chance.

Check out his profile to see what he’s up to.

See if some of his interests match some of yours.

Is his smile warm even if his looks aren’t a 10 on a 1-10 scale?

Do his pictures show you something about his personality?

And keep in mind the story I shared about the good guys at the dinner table who’d be rejected over and over again online by women for their non-descriptive looks.

Yet they are awesome men who are really good to the women in their lives.

While you’re at it, you might want to go back online and take a second look at some of the men you’ve passed over.

They could have the potential for being an amazing boyfriend who treats you like a Queen.

I nearly passed up my guy for not being tall enough. Thanks to you Lisa for pointing out to me what was really important. Your insights got me an amazing relationship with a man who treats me like a Queen. We’ve been together now a bit over 6 months and he just took me to a jewelry store and had me pick out a ring for Valentine’s day! Not an engagement ring but a diamond ring to show I am “taken”. Engagement later! Not quite ready yet. Thank you so much, Lisa. Couldn’t have done it without you and the group. He makes me so happy! Susan, Colorado

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