Are You Scaring Men Over 50 Away With These Date Breakers?

 

Man and woman over 50 arguingHave you ever been on a date where it felt like everything was going smoothly.

You were  having fun and then out of nowhere, he ended your time together for no reason at all?

You start wondering….”Did I do something wrong?”  

Well, it’s possible you showed him one of these 5 dating behaviors that are notorious for turning men off.

I’m going to share how to avoid these Date Breakers and what you can do instead to keep a man interested and engaged with you.

 

Date Breaker #1…Bashing Your Ex on a First Date

Early in the dating game, a new man doesn’t want to hear how bitter and angry you may still be feeling about your ex.

To a man, this feels like 3 people are on the date, not 2, and he feels he has to compete for better or worse with your ex to win you over.

It’s too much work for him and he will probably check out quickly.

If you are having trouble getting over the pain from your last relationship, it’s a good idea to seek help from a professional before you begin dating again.

 

Date Breaker #2…Hiding Your Feminine Side

Today, you’re often expected to be a tigress in the office, yet a kitten at home.

If you’re going on a date at the end of a long day at work, it can be hard to make an emotional transition from work to dating.

You could easily end up giving orders to a man about what you’d like him to do for you.

To a man, this comes across as masculine behavior and let me assure you if he’s straight, he’s not looking for another man to be his partner in life.

Be sure you spend time by yourself daily so you can decompress at the end of the day or else you might find your Mr. Right looking for a more feminine Ms. Right. 

 

Date Breaker #3…Inquiring Mind’s Want to Know!

The quickest way to scare a man off is by asking lots of questions about his life at the beginning of the dating process.

Privacy invading questions like, “What time did you get up today?”  “What did you do last night?” or “Where are you going?” are turn offs for emotionally healthy men.

Men love the freedom to do as they please.

When a man feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities, he’s start’s thinking you’re trying to take his freedom away and that you are going to try and control his life in some way.

This feels really scary to him!

When he’s ready, he’ll fill you in on his activities. Meanwhile, take this time to enjoy your own life instead of wanting to know so much about his.

 

Date Breaker #4…Being Attached at the Hip

Nothing scares a man off faster then a woman who wants to spend every waking hour of the day with him right after meeting.

To a man, this appears as if you have no life of your own and that you’re looking to turn his life into yours.

After only one date, if you find yourself making plans for the two of you that stretch out over the next year, that’s going to be a problem.

Wanting too much of his time right away just makes you appear clingy and emotionally needy, which is scary to a man.

In reality, men are most attracted to women who are confident and independent and have lives of their own that they bring to the dating table.

 

Date Breaker #5…Saying the “L” Word Too Soon

Sometimes we find ourselves having intense feelings for a new man in our life and we use the words, “I love you” far too quickly.

It’s a good idea to keep this feeling to yourself until you’ve been dating a while or until he says the “L” word first.

If you say it before he’s ready, you could find yourself right back in the dating pool again.

Have you turned men off without realizing it?

I’d love to hear what you thought happened and what you did to turn it around.

You can post your comments by clicking the button below.

And if you’d like to discover more great tips and advice for finding love after 50, be sure to check out my Amazon Best Seller, The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50

Believing in You!

Lisa

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1 Comment
  1. Useful tips Lisa. Many of the visitors to my site could use these tips. As a male I definitely agree with #3. I understand the curiosity behind the questions, but it’s a date, not an interview.

    And what about when a woman would like to know more about deeper issues about a man on a first date like his past relationships? Wait to bring up the topics later?

    Any suggestions?

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