Why You Love Bad Boys after 50 and why they are so BAD for YOU!
Isn’t it amazing that even at our age, we’re still wildly attracted to a Bad Boy?
Yes it’s true, he’s the one who can make you feel alive inside, right?
This type of man understands women.
He’s the kind of guy who’ll tell you that they broke the mold when they made you.
Or there’s no one else he can trust or share his deepest thoughts with other than you.
A Bad Boy makes you feel special and honored that he chose you above everyone else to be in his life.
His words make you fall in love with him and the chemistry, well let’s just say it feels amazing.
Unfortunately, there’s a not so great side to a Bad Boy.
One day he’ll tell you he loves you and the next day he’ll disappear.
Why? A Bad Boy can’t make a commitment to you or any other woman.
That’s because he loves going after the prize, the woman he wants and desires in the moment.
And he’ll do what it takes to get you into his life.
Sadly, once the chase is over, he tires of you and starts the hunt for someone else.
You’ve fallen in love with this man and when he leaves, it breaks your heart.
And what’s even worse is Bad Boys can come back to you when they’re between relationships.
Your Bad Boy will tell you how much he’s missed you.
This gives you hope and you fall in love with him again thinking he’s back for good this time.
But he’s not.
He just doesn’t want to be alone while he’s looking for his next conquest.
A Bad Boy will continue to come in and out of your life until you decide you’ve had enough and you decide to put a stop to this heartbreaking cycle.
How can you tell if he’s a Bad Boy?
Telltale signs are the extremes in his life.
He’s often very handsome and very masculine.
He wants the best life has to offer whether it’s liquor, cars or women.
He’s often extremely wealthy and extremely fast in whatever he does.
This makes him feel exciting which is a huge part of his charm in your eyes.
In the long run, a Bad Boy can make you miserable as he draws you in then shuts you out of his life over and over again.
I’ve had first-hand experience with this type of man and believe me . . . it was a painful experience for me.
Shortly after my 2nd divorce, an old flame of mine popped back into my life.
Since we didn’t live in the same city, we spent many a night talking hours on the phone.
He’d paint romantic scenarios telling me how he never stopped loving me and how he, unlike hubby #2 would have put me on a pedestal and never let me go if we’d been together.
I found myself falling for him and then out of thin air, the phone calls stopped and he vanished.
That was so hard.
I thought we had created this strong bond so I was pretty devastated when he disappeared.
Then one day out of the blue, he called me.
I was so excited just to hear his voice.
I got pulled back into his wooing, thinking this would be the time he’d stay.
Of course, he didn’t.
This happened a couple of times until I realized I’d had enough of listening to this man’s hollow words.
I decided to look for a man who would capture my heart and do everything in his power to keep it.
That’s when a good man came into my life.
Unlike the ‘Bad Boy’, his actions not his words made me feel loved, cherished and adored.
This is the type of man you want in your life!
Have you ever dated a ‘Bad Boy?’ If so, did he tell you what you wanted to hear then walk away?
Or did he stay and walk his talk? Would love to hear your thoughts.
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So so very true and I can really relate to this. Thank you for sharing this. Good to know that it is not unusual to fall into this trap.
This could not have come at a better time for me, you probably just saved me from making a big mistake. Thank you!
I’m glad the article helped you. Thank you for sharing that it did. Big hugs to you~
This bad boy scenario has been happening to me for the past 3 years with the same man. Surprisingly he is not that spectacular looking,but does have all the other bad boy qualities u mentioned Lisa, as being 10 yrs older than i am which i guess made me feel more protected and loved. I bekieve he does love me but the moment we were in a good place he would sabotage whatever “relationship” we did have. He would also comment that his mom always told him he outs the “kabosh” on anything good. Needless to say I rid myself of him in August and haven’t heard a word. He did not like that I stood up for myself so he did what he does best. Didn’t reply and disappeared! Why am I surprised? Yet I get all excited if i should hear from him. I am trying to stop this cycle and in addition am frustrated that i can’t find the one man thatvi deserve…sign me Broken in Brooklyn.
Good for you for getting out of this relationship. You deserve someone whose actions follow his words and who is willing to do everything to make the relationship work. Once you’ve healed, get back out there. The right man is just waiting of you. Hugs~
Thank you. The bad boys are really good at saying the words I want to hear and I BELIEVE them! I like that you mention watching their actions rather than listening to their words. It wasn’t until I valued myself, really valued myself, that I became proactive in choosing myself and voluntarily letting him (them) go.
What’s confusing is that sometimes doing the right thing for myself can feel wrong or lousy even if just for a moment. I expect it to feel good right away. What does feel good is knowing that I took care of myself and won’t have to feel like a yo-yo anymore.
Not feeling like a yo you anymore is a huge step for you Lorelei. You are worthy of having a good man in your life!!!! Hugs~