Here’s how you could be blocking your heart from finding love after 50
My friend Suzanne tragically lost the love of her life in her 40’s.
When it happened she told me it felt like her heart literally shattered into a million pieces.
The wound was so deep that it took her almost 10 years before she was willing to dip her toe into the dating pool.
She eventually did and ended up meeting a very wealthy businessman.
I can remember her being so drawn to his intelligence….NOT to his heart.
They ended up marrying; had a beautiful wedding, white dress and all and lived a lifestyle many would envy.
They traveled first class around the world.
They dined at the finest restaurants.
They bought a gorgeous old home and spent millions of dollars renovating it.
They had tickets to the symphony and the ballet and traveled all the time to see the latest Broadway plays appearing in New York.
About 5 years into their marriage, she decided to retire from her high power corporate job as Vice President of Client Services just as her husband decided to expand his business.
The money was flowing and on the outside, they looked like the perfect couple with the perfect life.
It wasn’t until after they divorced that Suzanne told me the truth about what it felt like to be married to someone whose mistress was work.
It felt terribly lonely!!!!
She knew something was missing and in hindsight, it became easy to see.
Her ex was never present because his mind was always on his work mistress and not on the two of them.
She’d been missing an intimacy you can only get when your heart connects to another’s heart and soul.
Fast forward a few years later and Suzanne meets another wealthy businessman.
And guess what the first words out of her mouth were…if you guessed I loved his intelligence than you would be right.
This part of the story is my favorite because I love helping my clients dig deep into their souls to heal why they’re always attracted to the same type of man over and over again.
Something interesting for you… most women could walk into a room of 100 men.
99 of these men would be good for them but the only one they’d be attracted to would be the guy they think is their type.
But truthfully, if your type worked for you, you would still be with him. Right?
Back to the story…I asked my friend if I could share an observation with her both as her friend and as a dating coach.
She said, “sure!”
I told her that even though she was thrilled by his intelligence, it was going to keep her once again from getting to that place of intimacy she had so craved in her 2nd marriage.
Next, I asked her this question….
“Are you protecting your heart?”
She was as do so many of my clients when they come to me looking to find love again.
She was afraid of getting her heart crushed like she had so long ago with the man who was the love of her life.
And that’s why she’d quickly find fault with so many of the men she dated.
My friend was doing what so many women do and that is repeating her pattern of protecting her heart by only being attracted to a man’s mind.
But his mind wasn’t going to keep her warm at night.
So I gave her my Secret Attraction Formula, which I want to share with you too…
A man’s personality + His appearance = Attraction.
When I asked her if she liked his personality the only thing she could say was that the dating world is messy.
Yes, it can be messy and scary because it makes you so vulnerable.
Men love your accomplishments, they love your intelligence but what they love most about you are your heart and your vulnerability.
When you’re able to trust a man, you are triggering his hero response that wants to always keep you safe, protected and happy.
Like my friend, many women block their hearts because they are afraid of getting hurt again.
But if you block your heart, you can’t get the closeness you want with a man.
Whether you’re a professional woman, a mom, a grandma, a woman who is spiritual or super intelligent, it’s likely you’re blocking your heart in some way that’s keeping you from the perfect man for you.
The question for you to now ask yourself is this…Is your heart open to love?
If it is…great!
But if it’s not, here’s a rare opportunity for you to open your heart right now.
This is a meditation I share with my private and group clients
It’s a Free Love Gift from my heart to yours to help you start the process of opening your heart to the perfect man for you. Click here to access it now.
Once you’ve listened, come back and share with me how you’ve blocked your own heart and how it’s been keeping you from finding love in the second half of your life.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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Oh, I like this meditation. I will use this again.
I’m so glad you did Debra. Thank you for letting me know. Hugs~