Dear Lisa, I am very stressed about my birthday coming up in 2 weeks since I will be turning 50. I have tried so hard to find a compatible guy through internet dating – especially this past year since I know that many guys search up through age 49 and soon I’ll be in the 50 and up category during their searches. I am feeling very worried and discouraged – how can I deal better with this? ~Nan
Nan,
First of all…CONGRATULATIONS on turning 50! It’s truly a wonderful decade full of choices in life that only become possibilities at this age.
You are going to be amazed at how many men will desire you in their life as a woman over 50 – younger ones looking for a cougar, men your age who want to share a common history with you and older men who will feel younger with you at their side.
It’s exciting! And the cool thing about men this age is they too are changing and want nothing more then to please you and make you happy.
The key is appreciating them.
Stay online. Don’t give up.
Do change your profile to one that is short, flirty and inviting.
Be sure to post a great picture that shows your feminine side in softer feminine clothes. No business pictures. They make you appear competitive, not feminine.
Go out of your comfort zone and check out different kinds of men you normally don’t.
Online dating is very one dimensional. What sounds great online may not transfer well to real life.
And what sounds and looks not so great through a computer might be a fantastic catch you are missing.
Don’t worry about your age… Do these suggestions and have fun dating lots of different men, versus only dating to mate.
Dear Lisa,
If you KNOW there is absolutely no chemistry with a man after 50, should you accept a second date? ~Lynn
Lynn,
By all means YES!!!! If he’s nice and is attractive to you…give him a couple of chances.
Chemistry can literally happen overnight. I had a client who went out with a man three times and kept wondering why she was hanging in there when she felt nothing.
On the fourth date, he reached across the table, touched her face and the chemistry sparked for her.
They ended up in a great relationship together.
If you are looking for BIG BANG CHEMISTRY – the kind that makes you feel this huge immediate connection with a man – it is more than likely a chemical reaction happening between your bodies that usually doesn’t turn out well for either of you.
Just remember… The good chemistry can take some time to build. If after four dates, you aren’t feeling anything then it’s time to move on.
Need more help with dating? Check out my Find A Quality Man Home Study System for answers to all your dating questions. It’s filled with dating advice for women over 50. It’s like having me at your side when you’re not sure what to do. Check it out here: https://findaqualityman.com/products/home-study/.
Until Next Time~
Believing in You!
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