Dear Lisa, Can I Lie About My Age On The Over 50 Dating Scene?

 

Dear LisaDear Lisa,

I was wondering what your thoughts were about changing my age on my profile.  I am 52 and have noticed that many men will change their ages in their profiles and then mention later that it was changed “for search purposes.”

 

I do think that I may not show up on some searches as they often stop at 50. My age range that I would like is 45-60.  I’ve been getting a lot of older men writing to me.

 

I don’t want to lie about it, and I am very youthful looking.  I just would like to expand the pool of possibilities. Thanks! Joy

 

 

Hi Joy,

 

I would give your real age only because it creates trust issues when you do have to finally explain why you didn’t tell the truth to begin with. A man starts thinking…okay, she lied about this, what else is she not telling me?

 

Men search women of all ages and if you have a fantastic picture with a great smile, they’ll notice you.

 

 

Dear Lisa,

 

When will they quit pushing online dating as the best way to meet men after 50? I’ve done online dating on and off since 1999 and I’ve always found it to be frustrating and soul sucking.

 

With the exception of one person I know who met her husband on E-Harmony, the vast majority of people I’ve talked to agree.

 

It would be good if we could direct women over 50 to lots of great places to meet quality single and available men in their age group. Society doesn’t cater to us, but I can think of nothing more depressing than sitting home trolling the web for men, most of whom aren’t telling you who they really are and who really don’t want to put the time and energy into a healthy relationship – if they even know what that means. There are other ways. Susan

 

 

Susan,

 

Online dating is the best place to meet men over 50 because it’s one of the few places where singles over 50 congregate in large numbers with the same goal of meeting someone to share their lives with.

 

Most women fail at online dating because they don’t have the skills for tapping into the good guys on there and they don’t keep at it when the going gets rough.

 

I met my honey on POF and I will tell you that it took every skill I’ve ever learned and taught to make it happen, along with at least 30 dates in a year before finally meeting him.

 

I have an idea for you. Would you like Online Dating to be easier and more fun? Would you like to know where to meet men and have the words to say to approach men in real life? I can show you how in The Fun Path to Mr. Right Mentoring Group.  Women have used the paint by number steps and found great guys and relationships. And they’ve had fun dating for the first time in their lives.

 

Also…go back and look at the 5 Little Known Secrets To Finding A Quality Man. You’ll find lots of great tips for finding good guys in the real world and online.

 

 

Dear Lisa,

What do you do if on the third great date the guy over 50 asks your annual income? You answer, then he’s offended because it’s more than him? I don’t have a college degree like him, but I’ve worked my butt off to get where I am. No apologies! On the fourth date he asked to borrow money. One of my guy friends said to RUN!!! Inappropriate question on all levels!! Single mom with daughter in college

 

 

Single mom with daughter in college,

 

Your guy friend is right. RUN! An emotionally healthy guy has no interest in finding out what your money situation is so early in the game. If a man asks at this point, you’ll want to picture a huge red flag in front of his face because he’s giving you big clues to being a scammer looking for someone to dig him out of his money troubles.

 

I’d love to hear what you think in the comments.

Until next time~

Believing in You!

Lisa

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1 Comment
  1. re: is online dating the only way…
    I get it. Attempting to communicate via typing is not my favorite thing to do, either. Here are some suggestions. Sign up on meet-up.com… You may have to Google the website. It’s free and its groups of people with similar interests. Some are singles groups, others everything from book clubs to yoga. You might meet a single guy, or make a new friend with someone to match you up. Check various churches. Many have an over 50,club or singles club. Volunteer at things. Take a few golf lessons and go to the driving range. Go to a car show, or oldies, blues or jazz fest.Go shoe shopping at a real shoe store.(I work in a ‘better’ shoe store) . Most men will not approach you especially if you are with a girlfriend. So get out, go out, and be ready to give a compliment and smile. Hi, nice shirt. Hi nice car. You won’t meet men at ladies functions. Think… What do men like…. What do I like…. And do it. Build yourself a rich, full happy life. And meet some great people.

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