Are You Trying To Date Davy Jones?
My sister and I sometimes head down memory lane and one of our favorite ones is a party we had where all the girls danced in front of posters of Davy Jones and Mickey Dolenz, listening to “Daydream Believer” and “I Want To Be Free.”
Remember how gorgeous Davy Jones was?
Remember the crush you probably had on him since he was so cute?
How did you feel about Davy Jones (May he rest in peace) when he turned 60 and pictures both current and from when he was younger, were posted all over the internet?
Remember Keith Richards of The Rolling Stones?
So masculine, so cute and that long hair.
Google a current picture of Keith Richards. Would you date him?
Or does he remind you of the men you see online who look like your uncle or grandfather?
When we go on dating sites, we often carry with us a mental image of a younger version of ourselves.
That’s because from day to day, we don’t see ourselves as having aged.
And with everyone telling us we look a lot younger than we are, it can be shocking to see older men staring back at us online.
A lot of women tell me that when they meet men our age, the zing of the attraction factor just isn’t there for them.
I believe expecting men to look and act a lot younger is part of the reason so many of us struggle with dating.
An example of this is one of my clients went out with a guy she thought was “eh” . . . but she liked his profile so I encouraged her to give him a chance.
And something amazing happened when she did.
Over time, I noticed her talking about how cute he was.
As you get to know a man’s personality, this is what can happen.
It’s why I encourage you to give nice men a chance.
Listen as we age, we all get less cute.
My dad lives in an Independent Living Community. I see couples who met there holding hands and even stealing a kiss all the time.
They do not have the beauty of their youth yet they found someone to share this time in their life with.
That’s because they are clear about what they want.
Companionship.
Someone who is supportive.
Someone to laugh with.
Physical touch however that looks.
And they are happy. You can see it on their faces.
I get that you have to feel some type of attraction with a man.
But also take a moment to decide what’s important to you when it comes to the Quality Man and relationship you want in your life.
There are some good men out there who aren’t the cutest but would do anything for you that are worth dating.
Skeptical about that sentence?
Think about this . . . do you want to stay alone the rest of your life looking for Mr. Handsome and that immediate zing?
Or do you want to hang with a really nice guy who grows on you and becomes more and more handsome and fun as you get to know him?
A man who makes you laugh holds your hand at the movies, and who is even willing from time to time to see a good chick flick with you.
I would love to hear what you think.
Did you know that unlike other dating coaches, I only work with single women over 50? Why?
Because dating after 50 is different than dating in your 20’s, 30’s or even 40’s.
And that’s why my goal is to give you the best over 50’s dating strategies along with great support because I want to see you find an amazing man to spend your life with.
So look…
If you’re not attracting the man you want…
If you’re working WAY too hard at this and getting no where…
If you’re sick and tired of being single and alone…
Then let’s set up a time to talk. It’s complimentary, and it will be the BEST 30 minutes you have EVER spent working on your love life.
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Lisa, you nailed it! Yes, I would rather have a quality man who loves me and treats me like a queen, even though he may not be the most handsome man I’ve ever seen. The man I’m with now is just that. He checks off every other requirement on my list—the ones that are truly the most important in the long run. So thank you for this crucial message.
Ellen…love this!!!!!!!
Of course I would love to meet someone who is a great guy inside .. and a compatible and loving companion for life, however I can’t settle for someone who makes my skin “crawl “ no matter how nice he is .. I’m an attractive women and I expect to find the same in a Partner .. I’m not looking for the most handsome man or a charmer ..but I am looking for parody in appearance.. I’m so weary of reading how women in their fifties need to be less selective and get past appearance .. that to me is settling.. I’m certain men wouldn’t be interested in a woman they didn’t find attractive either .. no matter how kind, smart, sweet, playful or whatever other adjective unless they were attracted to her physically. Let’s please call it how it really is and stop making excuses for men .. they surely don’t give women a break on appearance.
Mary, attraction is important but for a woman as you get to know a man, it can grow. That’s why giving nice men a chance is so important.
Not only do men my age or older fail to give women over 60 a treatment in kind, they have forgotten how to be polite! Why has “ghosting” become acceptable? It has happened so many times and curiously enough, usually when there’s a stated connection. Is online dating the problem? Has the lure of who may be in your next view so enticing we have forgotten the golden rule? If I know that there are not enough common interests, I will practice how I wish to be treated even though no one likes to hurt someone’s feelings. An honest no, or gently saying that it wouldn’t work for me is something I can live with rather than just disappearing. No wonder all of the wounded seem to be online. I wish honesty was ok.
I have to admit I am somewhat guilty of wanting the attraction. But to be honest, I find most men our age think they should be dating women in their 30’s. They post in their site the age range they are looking for and it is always younger than the, and rarely even includes their age. They also start conversations and then disappear. I am so tired of dating sites and trying to find available men of a certain age. It’s exhausting.
Yes it can be Diane. Have you tried meeting men in real life?
I agree! I know and am proud of how I have aged. I’m not interested in someone who isn’t age appropriate but there has to be something that draws my attention. What good is it to know what we want and then not be selective to our needs? I just can’t do any port in a storm. Yes, I’m on a dating site so I am relationship ready but know upfront I will be looking from the 1% pool.
Feb. 7, 2020 Dear Lisa: I appreciate the emails from you very much.
I am 74 and lost my mate. I am currently looking at POF (a free Vancouver, BC Canada website) after NO replies and NO offers from men on Zoosk. I lost over $80 and what I got for the money was the opportunity to spend my time and look at a lot of really ugly men. Many have revolting beards they seem quite pleased with. A couple I have seen say they don’t want ANYTHING. One I met through an ad I put on craigslist was very nice but wanted to get right at sex after a dinner. Are all the men who are 70 and older still operating like that? (if I even meet up with more). Just apathetic or sex predators?
I think that somehow the dating pool needs an overhaul. The men I am interested in meeting are either rebounding from hurt whether it’s the realization that they are the age they are and younger women eventually are interested in their checkbook or they refuse to Trade for the same model. In any case, this reality makes them feel they can behave badly because it was done to them. This puts wounded and bruised egos back into the pool and the cycle continues.
Dixie…I hear your frustration but there are men out there who do love women our age. They may try younger women but often find they have nothing in common and come back to women in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s. Your power in the dating world comes from knowing exactly who you want. In my community, my clients create Quality Man Templates to help them get a crystal clear vision of who the right man is for them at this time in their life versus looking for the man they looked for in their 20’s. Also having a good grip on the language men speak and hear helps too.