9 Tips for Staying Safe From Scammers On Dating Sites
Right now the best way to meet men is on a dating site.
Good men are on there but Scammers are as well.
In fact, recently, I heard yet another story of a woman connecting with a scammer on a legitimate dating site.
These men are con artists who will find a way to touch your heart and your pocketbook without a second thought.
I don’t want to scare you and cause you to stop going online because there are good men on there for you to date.
But there are certain clues you need to be aware of that will tip you off to potential scammers.
Read through these 9 tips about what scammers tell you, so you’ll know how to protect yourself from their lies and schemes.
1. Scammers Feed Off Specific Clues You Put In Your Profile
Don’t mention your income or where you work.
You can say you’re a nurse or an executive but don’t mention where or how much you make.
Be aware of sounding needy and lonely in your profile.
It makes you perfect prey for scammers looking to hook you into their scams.
2. He Usually Lives Outside The US
He might tell you that he lives in a metropolitan city in the US but his work takes him elsewhere in the world.
He says he’ll be coming back soon… and, of course, to wait for him because he can’t wait to meet you.
3. Scamming Women Is His Job
Most of these men live in poorer countries around the world where jobs that pay well are scarce.
He’s learned that by working a couple of hours each day, he can easily communicate with women in the US, find their weak spots, and make a fortune.
He’ll probably speak with a British accent that sounds so romantic especially to American women.
He knows this and uses it to his advantage to hook you.
4. What He’ll Tell You About Himself
He’ll have a romantic name like Valentino or Antonio.
His picture online is usually drop-dead gorgeous in a romantic sort of way.
And he uses pictures of great looking men men knowing you’ll feel special being contacted by someone this handsome.
Look closely at those pictures on his profile.
They are often shots found on the internet of handsome models in ads selling items like hats or sunglasses.
Or he’s holding a product in his hand like beer or wine.
Or he might be standing in front of an unusual looking building or an expensive car.
When you ask for more pictures, he’ll send family pictures of children or grandchildren.
The big tip-off: he’s not in these family pictures because he can’t find any more pics of the models’ image he’s used.
5. He Uses Romance to Lure You In
Women love romance and these men know this has been missing in your life for a long time.
So he steals poems off the internet and sends them to you as if they were his own.
Your heart just melts and you bond with him which makes you even more vulnerable to his scheme.
6. He’ll Always Have An Excuse For Why He Can’t See You
He’ll tell you that he can’t wait to see you and that he’s making arrangements to travel in a month or two when he can get away from his business.
Right before you’re supposed to meet, he has to cancel the trip for some reason.
This happens over and over again and is another HUGE TIP OFF you’re dealing with a scammer.
7. You Can’t Find Anything Concrete About Who This Man Is
Try searching on Google for your Valentino or Antonio.
More than likely nothing will show up.
8. How the scam works
He’ll take the time to chat with you every day for hours.
His male attentiveness feels amazing because he knows its probably been a while since a man has been this devoted to you.
But beware…. what he’s really doing is he is looking for your weak spots.
If you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if he tells you he has too.
He uses these holes in your heart to get you to trust him knowing it will be easy for you to bond with someone who has experienced the same loss as you.
As you’re bonding, he’s telling you things like; I love you, baby, I can’t wait to see you, baby.
Now he’s ready to reign you in for the scam.
He shares the news with you about a HUGE business deal he’s about to close and once it’s done, he’ll come to see you.
He just needs a little more money to finish it or he’ll lose everything.
He might tell you that family members have invested as well but the bank won’t be able to give him the last bit he needs so he’s going to lose the deal and all the money he and his family have invested.
This is when he asks you for your help.
He’s done the work needed to capture your heart.
You’re in love with him and you don’t want to see him suffer.
You want to help him so you wire the money he needs to his bank account.
And you never hear from him again.
9. Action Plan for Protecting Yourself From A Scammer
Thousands of intelligent women get caught up in these scams every year.
Here’s what you can do to stay safe dating online . . .
Date men closer to home.
Keep emails short and sweet.
Maximum of 5-10 at the most.
Spend no more than a couple of hours on 1 or 2 phone calls max.
Meet a man within 2-3 weeks of initial contact.
If a man tells you he’ll be out of the country for a month or two, tell him to give you a call when he gets back.
Lastly, upload his profile picture to Google Images. You’ll be able to see if the image matches who he says he is or if he has stolen it from someone else.
And use these 9 tips to stay safe dating online.
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Another easy way to find scammers – Copy a sentence from the middle of their profile. Search for it in quotes. Scammers usually copy their profiles from someone else and his quote will show up multiple dating sites (sometimes even labelled as a scammer). Even if the guy is not a scammer, who wants to date someone who is unoriginal and can’t say something about themselves in their own words?
Great 10th tip Jean. Glad you shared it!!!!!
So true. I think I was being scammed only text him he comes back with all these romantic, babe, love, I’m not going to persue anyone else. Red flag no job turned down from worker’s compensation, he started a business with his son, turned into a franchise his son pushed him out of the business. He wants to look for a job somewhere around me. At 58 rents, no money. I own 4 homes, retired early March 16, financially healthy.
Their out there in full force.
Hi Lisa
I almost got caught by one of these scammers. He pulled out all the stops but there was always a reason he could not meet for coffee. He had an accent and said he was Italian. He said he had a daughter and a mother who had Alzheimers. He tried to reel me in with compliments and attention.
He lost me the day he told me my friends didn’t love me as much as he did. I never even met the man!!! I immediately blocked him on my phone and on the dating site and reported him.
Another guy didn’t even get that far with me. another “foreigner”, he asked me to email him off the site because he wanted to discuss a “business venture”. I blocked and reported this guy immediately.
Good catch Monica. And the accent and Italian part are really common as part of their scams.
Hello Lisa,
Thanks for sharing the tips! Actually, I was about to be scammed! He asked me to write a letter as a fiancee even if we were just friends for 3 days to terminate his contract for his life is in danger in Syria. After sending the letter, I was asked to deposit a money for the termination of his contract amounting to $550. It was then I realized that it was a scam. I decided to stop the connection/communication by blocking him from my account! I am too intelligent to be stupid! Come to think of it, he first communicated with me through a “Christian Today” site. His name is John Townsend Henry!
Glenda, Sadly very intelligent women get scammed everyday because scammers play into their heart not their minds. So glad this didn’t happen to you. xoxoxo