5 Dating Myths Holding You Back From Finding Love after 50
Myth #1-A Man Is Going To Be Your Best Friend
Let’s get really clear about this…
Communication with a man isn’t the same as it is with your girlfriends.
Emotionally healthy men will be your best friend by keeping you safe, protected and provided for.
He will do his best to fix anything that makes your life easier for you.
But he’s not going to get involved in long conversations about things he has no interest in.
When you share involved and complicated stories about your friend’s and their families, a man can’t keep track of the point you are trying to make.
Unless it’s about you and taking care of you in some way, his eyes will glaze over.
This is why it’s so important to have girlfriends who will happily process any story with you over your favorite martini or glass of wine.
Myth #2-You’ll Just Know He’s “The One” When You Meet Him
This rarely happens.
Yes, you’ll hear stories about women who’ve said they just knew he was the one when they met their husbands.
What you’re not hearing are the stories about women who thought they’d found the one but after some time passed found him to be NOT even remotely close to who they wanted to spend the rest of their life with.
It’s super easy to get caught up in the fantasy and romantic side of dating.
How many times has a Hallmark movie shown a man and a woman locking eyes across the room with the fireworks between them going off like it was the 4th of July?
That type of initial chemistry is a hormonal zing between the two of you.
You can have those zings with lots of men but it doesn’t mean they’re the right one for you.
It’s why you want to give nice men a chance.
You’ll be surprised how over time the zing can grow.
Myth #3- You’re His Girlfriend After 3 Dates
Want to know how you know if and when you’re a man’s girlfriend?
Simple!
He’ll introduce you to everyone as his girlfriend.
If he says this is my friend, then you know exactly how he’s placed you in his life.
Take the time to carefully listen to a man words because I gotta tell you….men say exactly what they mean!
Myth #4- Men Love The Makeovers You Give Them
NOT!!!!!!
One of men’s biggest pet peeves is about women who are always trying to change them whether it’s the clothes they wear, the food they eat or how they do their job.
One of the coolest things about emotionally healthy men is they love you exactly how you are.
That’s because men fall in love with the reality of you and women fall in love with men’s potential.
If you don’t like who a man is then let him go and move on to a man you do like.
Myth #5- He Wants to Know Your Every Wish and Make It Come True
I can’t tell you the number of times men who’ve shown me women’s profiles and said, “Lisa, what are these women thinking? Their profiles are filled with demands of how I should act, what I should make and the job I should have.”
I know you’re trying to express what you want so the wrong men stay away but what you’re doing is turning men off.
They don’t like being told what to do by women they know much less women they haven’t met.
There are better ways to filter out men in your profile by describing you and what you love doing.
I share exactly how to do this in Creating Your Irresistible Profile.
What myths are you holding onto that are keeping you from finding love after 50?
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Dear Lisa, I decided to write to you because I value your advice a lot. A little about me: I am 67, divorced, originally from Poland. I lived in Australia for 25 years and 10 years ago returned to Poland. I am a confident woman, I know my worth, am very positive, energetic and open. However I don’t have much luck in finding the right man!! I joined a Polish dating site a few years ago and recently I have joined E-harmony.
I am very flexible, have no problem with relocating locally or abroad, can do my job anywhere in the world ( I teach English via Skype).
Most men on E-harmony do not respond to me. There is one man( 57 years old) who shows interest in me and says he has no problem with me living in Poland. When I asked another man about that I received no answer.
Can you possibly help me here?
Warm regards, Wanda Slawik