3 Tips to Overcoming Your Biggest Fears About Dating after 50
I remember when I first started dating back in my 40’s.
Wow, it was SCARY!
And it took a lot of courage to breakthrough some of the fears and self doubt I was feeling so I could find the right man for me.
Today I want to share the 3 Steps I used to overcome my fears.
These are steps you can start using right now in your own life.
1. Take a No-Excuses Approach
Great guys are everywhere.
Yet when you’re not sure what to do or how to handle the dating issues that come up, its easy to use excuses for why your love life isn’t going the way you’d like it to.
Everyday I hear excuses like these….“There’s no good men left out there to date,” “I’m too busy to date,” “No time to date,” “All men are jerks” and the list goes on.
To get the right guy into your life, you’ve got to be willing to let go of the excuses and get yourself online or out in the real world meeting men.
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Ask yourself…. How badly do you want a companion in your life?
You can either have excuses or you can have results.
Which do you choose?
2. Feel the Fear—But Do It Anyway
Your ego creates fear to keep you safe.
Everyone feels fear and why shouldn’t they?
You’re putting yourself out there and that makes you vulnerable.
Who hasn’t felt a fear of rejection, a fear of not being good enough, a fear of being humiliated, a fear of making mistakes, a fear men might not like you, or a fear of the unknown, just to name a few.
Most single women I know experience fear.
What separates the women who get the guys from those who allow their fears to hold them back is a willingness to date in spite of the fears they may be feeling.
The best way for you to get over your dating fears is to walk directly into them.
Let yourself feel them.
Ask the fear what it’s trying to tell you.
Then journal or meditate on the answers you hear.
It takes courage to do this – courage I see my private clients show everyday when they put themselves in the vulnerable position of meeting new men even though they are shaking in their boots as they do it.
Actually, walking into fear is never as bad as you think it’s going to be.
And if you allow yourself to really feel the fears versus resisting them… what you might end up with is a great guy in your life.
Imagine how that would feel!
3. Be Willing to Get Out of Your Dating Comfort Zone
Most of us avoid discomfort like it’s the plague yet it’s the best way to grow and get what you really want in life.
Here’s one of my favorite mantras that can help you get through this…
I am ready to date. I am willing to find and meet new men even when I feel uncomfortable. I know uncomfortable equals growth and growth equals achieving my dreams of finding the man I want to share my life with.
Now its time to work through your fears and break out of your comfort zone so you can have the man and the relationship you’ve been wanting in your life.
I can’t wait to hear how these 3 tips work for you.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
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3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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Hi Lisa
I’ve liked a guy for years now. He is in my workplace. Sometimes I’m convinced that he doesn’t want to go out with me. I’m fine as long as I don’t see him. Then when I see him even once in a blue moon, and he does something sweet like ask me how I am in a genuine kind of way, I become obsessed and can’t stop thinking about him. I even fantasise about our wedding! which is ridiculous. But I would really love to marry this guy. Why am I so unwell? When I”m around guys I like I can’t really keep it together.
Maybe its a body like rather than a total person like? as I’ve heard you mention in the past.
It sounds like I’m a young person right? I’m 40.
Signed off,
Exhausted