3 Tips to Help You Overcome Your Biggest Fears About Dating after 50

a person wrapped in red tape that says fear

I didn’t date much as a teenager.

It seems like back then, we pretty much fell into relationships.

I remember having fun hanging out for years.

Then one day, he proposed and we decided to get married.

Fast forward 24 years when I was suddenly faced with the idea of dating in midlife….well, to be honest – I WAS PETRIFIED!

It didn’t take long to realize that I was either going to let my fears and self-doubt run me (and that meant staying single forever) or I was going to have to come up with a plan to face them because I didn’t want to be alone the rest of my life.

So, I came up with 3 steps that gave me a boost out of my comfort zone whenever I was feeling fear or self-doubt as I traveled this journey to love.

These steps are simple and something you can start using right now on your own journey.

Step #1 . . .  Not allowing excuses to run the show

When I wasn’t sure how to handle a dating situation, instead of facing it, I’d come up with an excuse to not have to deal with my love life not going smoothly.

And every day, I hear excuses from women about why they aren’t dating.

Excuses like . . . “There are no good men left out there to date,”  or  “I’m too busy to date,” or  “I don’t have time to date,”  or “All men are jerks” and the list goes on.

Are you using any of these?

If so, this is for you.

To get the right man into your life, you’ve got to be willing to let go of your excuses and be open to getting yourself online or out in the real world meeting men.

I wish it weren’t so but this is the ONLY way you’re going to find a man who’s a good fit for you.

Having a hard time letting those excuses go?

Then, ask yourself…. How badly do you want a companion in your life?

You can either have excuses or you can have the guy.

Which do you choose?

Step #2 . . .  Feel the Fear—But Do It Anyway

Your ego creates fear to keep you safe.

And you’re not alone!

Everyone feels fear when it comes to dating.

After all, you’re putting yourself out there and this makes you vulnerable.

Whether its a fear of rejection, a fear of not being good enough, a fear of being humiliated, a fear of making mistakes, a fear men might not like you, or a fear of the unknown . . . it’s scary!

Most single women, I know, experience fear.

I know I did.

Working with women, what I’ve found separates the women who get the guys from those who allow their fears to hold them back is a willingness to date in spite of the fears they may be feeling.

The best way for you to get over your dating fears is to walk directly into them.

Let yourself feel them.

Ask the fear what it’s trying to tell you.

Then journal or meditate on the answers you hear.

It takes courage to do this – courage I see my group and private clients show every day when they put themselves in the vulnerable position of meeting new men even though they are shaking in their boots as they do it.

BTW . . . walking into fear is never as bad as you think it’s going to be.

If you allow yourself to really feel the fears versus resisting the fear… what you might end up with is a great guy in your life.

Imagine how that would feel!

Step #3 . . .  Be Willing to Get Out of Your Dating Comfort Zone

Most of us avoid discomfort like it’s the plague yet it’s the best way to grow and get what you really want in life.

Here’s one of my favorite mantras that can help you get through this…

I am ready to date.  I am willing to find and meet new men even when I feel uncomfortable.  I know uncomfortable equals growth and growth equals achieving my dreams of finding the man I want to share my life with. 

Now its time to work through your fears and break out of your comfort zone so you can have the man and the relationship you’ve been wanting in your life.

Get yourself online.

I have some personal favorites when it comes to dating sites for meeting men.

Here are some of my favorites to check out.  Lisa’s Favorite Dating Sites

Start talking to men everywhere you go.

It can be fun if you have no attachment to how it’s going to work out.

And come join my Facebook community to get some support from me and a community of women traveling the same journey as you are.  (BTW . . . we talk about everything there when it comes to men and dating over 50.)

Click here to check it out.

Believing in you!!!!!

Until next time~

Believing in You!

Lisa

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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