3 Tips for Overcoming Some of The Biggest Challenges that Show Up in Over 50’s Dating
Let’s be honest here . . . no one was born knowing how to date so when challenges come up, you may not know what to do.
In today’s blog, I’m going to share 3 tips for how to handle 3 of these challenges that can make dating a lot easier for you.
So let’s get started.
Tip #1 . . . He shows up but he’s not who you thought he was
How many times have you looked at a man’s profile and thought for sure he was the one?
Yet when you met, he was nothing like the guy you saw online or spoke with on the phone.
Here’s why this could be happening to you.
Between the time you’ve seen a man’s profile and the time you finally meet, chances are you’ve imagined what life with this new guy might be like.
What you’re doing is creating a story about who you think he is based on his profile and pictures, some emails or texts, and a phone call or two.
And when you meet, the story you created doesn’t match up to the man who shows up.
I see this happen over and over again to women.
It’s why I recommend going on a date with the intention of meeting someone new and interesting.
No expectations. No creative stories about who he might be.
If you do this, it will save you a lot of heartache and frustration!
Tip #2 . . . Coffee, Drinks or Dinner on a meet and greet
I’m often asked the question, “Should I do coffee or meet for dinner if it’s a meet and greet?”
Here’s my answer . . . Coffee or drinks gives you a fairly quick out if you need one.
If things are going well, you can always continue getting to know each other over dinner.
Sitting down for a long meal with someone you don’t know; while having to be at your best with someone you’ve never met; can be exhausting if the date’s not going well.
Both ways work. Just have exit strategies in place in case the date starts heading south.
Tip #3 . . . Handling rejection
I know it feels like rejection when you don’t get a second date you really want.
What used to help me get over this need to be loved by everyone including the men I really had no interest in was to remember this mantra . . .
He’s not personally rejecting you. You just don’t match the picture of who he thinks he wants in his life.
You’ve probably done the same thing with many of the men you’ve met.
Think of all the guys you’ve turned down because they didn’t fit your picture of Mr. Right.
As tempting as it is, promise me you won’t write, text, or call him if the date doesn’t work out.
Move on to the next guy because your goal is to have someone who wants you in his life.
These are the types of issues that come up in over 50’s dating and they can drive you crazy when you have nowhere to turn for answers.
You don’t have to figure out over 50’s dating on your own anymore.
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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I simply refuse to interest myself in these dating websites because all of the dating websites are fake profiles which I have tried men have stolen identities and used them that is why I refuse to join any of these.