The 3 Biggest Mistakes Women Make Trying To Find Love after 50
35 Awesome First Date Questions
At the age of 45, I found myself single for the first time since my teens.
I started dating but truthfully, I had no clue what I was doing!!!!
I ended up making huge mistakes that shook my confidence and led me to a doomed 2nd marriage with the wrong man that lasted exactly two years.
Back then I thought I was the only one suffering when it came to dating.
Today, as a dating coach, I help women every day overcome these mistakes so they are able to find the perfect man for them.
I want to share three that that can doom your love life if not corrected.
Mistake #1 . . . You believe ‘he’s out there’ and when the time is right, ‘he’ll just show up in your life’
This is a belief based on the Law of Attraction that goes like this . . . if I focus on it hard enough, it will happen.
Hey, I’m a huge believer in manifesting what you want but I know the only way it really works is when you take ACTION to make your dream come true.
If you just hang out waiting for your guy to show up, you could end up alone the rest of your life.
Your Action Step for finding the perfect man for you is to create a Dating Blueprint.
Start with Online dating.
You want to craft a good profile with pictures that show off the best you.
Browse dating sites to see which ones have the types of men you’d like to meet.
Then join the ones that you think will work for you.
Next, make a list of at least 10 places in your area you think single men your age hang out.
Get your flirting skills in place and go meet them.
Lastly, write out a list of people you know in business, activities you participate in, classes you take, people you work with plus friends and family.
These are your Dating Fairy Godmothers, the angels who can fix you up with other single people they know.
It takes work to get what you want in life but if you’re persistent and consistent at working your Dating Blueprint, you can meet a lot of good men.
Mistake #2 . . . You must feel the spark right away
Want to know what the spark really is?
It’s chemistry and it’s the bonding hormone that often makes you mix up the two L’s-love and lust.
Many failed relationships start with this type of intense chemistry because it feels so amazing.
The problem is you end up spending a lot of time in bed fulfilling those hormone cravings and the friendship every relationship needs isn’t built.
The best chemistry is a slow burn.
You might not feel it till the 3rd, 4th date or maybe even the 10th date.
If a guy is nice, keep going out.
One day, he could reach across the table and tenderly touch your face in a way that causes the sparks to fly.
Adopt the mantra of giving nice men a chance!!!!
Mistake #3 . . . Dating to Mate on a 1st Date
When I first started dating I, too, was guilty of trying to figure out if he was the one before my cup of tea was even finished.
Here’s the problem with this strategy . . . meet and greets are awkward.
You’re making snap decisions about someone without really knowing who a man even is.
I always urge my clients to go on dates for the sole purpose of meeting someone new and interesting.
It takes a ton of pressure off of you by not having to figure it all out in 30 minutes or less.
Keep in mind, the only purpose of a meet and greet is to see if you want to go on a second date. That’s it.
It’s worth giving a good guy a chance cause you never know, he could turn out to be the one and you don’t want to miss that do you?
Now here’s something fun when you’re trying to figure out if a guy is right for you.
My friend and colleague, Carol Allen does these cool Right Man Reports.
With this report, you’ll find out how compatible you are, why you feel the way you do when you are together, and if your relationship would be a positive, fulfilling one in the future. It’s a no brainer at only $19.97.
Love to hear your comments and experiences with the dating mistakes you’ve made in the past.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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