10 Reasons Why Don Draper Is Not Your Quality Man
Okay, let’s face it.
If you’re like most women, you probably love the infamous Bad Boy.
After all, he makes you feel pretty good with his seductive words. Life feels exciting and fun around him.
The problem is… he has a hard time being in a monogamous relationship.
If it’s a long term commitment you really want, this guy is probably not the best fit for you.
So who is this guy?
One of the best examples is Mad Men’s Don Draper.
Don is the ultimate Bad Boy…slick, sophisticated, rich and fun! And a terrible husband who is totally committed only to himself.
There are lots of men out there just like him.
Here are 10 reasons why you might want to rethink having this type of man as your next boyfriend.
#1. A Bad Boy’s Actions Rarely Match His Words
A good guy will always follow through on what he tells you. When he can’t, he’ll let you know and won’t leave you trying to figure out what happened. If a man is not doing this, he’s not worthy of dating you.
#2. A Bad Boy Often Disappears, Then Comes Back, Then Disappears Again…
This is a man hunting, what I call Shiny Penny Syndrome. He’s looking for someone who he perceives might be a better fit for him than you are. What makes him a Bad Boy is when it doesn’t work out, he comes back to you until he goes out and starts hunting for his next conquest.
#3. A Bad Boy Is Usually A Narcissist Who Wants His Way In Every Situation
He’ll manipulate you into doing what he wants to do, even when you say no. When you give in, you end up feeling like you betrayed yourself. A good guy will honor your no’s.
#4. A Bad Boy Doesn’t Always Treat People Well
If he takes you to his favorite restaurant and his meal shows up wrong, he can blast the poor waiter with his anger. This guy often displays road rage, as well thinking the world revolves around him. A good guy knows things can go awry and gives someone a chance to correct it.
#5. A Bad Boy Takes You To A Party And Leaves You At The Door To Fend For Yourself
A good guy will introduce you to the people he knows in the room as his girlfriend and will make sure you’re taken care of with food, drinks and people to talk to.
#6. A Bad Boy Only Cares About Having His Needs Met
Your needs fall far below his on the priority list. A good guy is into pleasing you and making you happy. If he’s not, let him go.
#7. A Bad Boy Can Be Passive Aggressive
If you’re trying to work an issue out, he’ll act like everything is okay. Then he gets with other people and he bad mouths your decision, looking for confirmation from others that he’s right. A good guy will work issues out with you and even if he disagrees with the final decision, he will keep it to himself.
#8. A Bad Boy Asks You For A Date But Doesn’t Call To Confirm Whether It’s Happening
You end up calling him and he holds your life up, telling you he’s not sure how long his meeting is going to be. A Good Guy will make sure you have the details for your date, including the place and when he’ll pick you up. Then he shows up or calls to let you know he’s running late…not the other way around.
#9. A Bad Boy Makes All The Decisions For Both Of You Thinking He Knows What’s Best For You
No one knows you better than you and a Good Guy will make sure your feelings and thoughts are part of the decision process.
#10. A Bad Boy Doesn’t Make Sure You Feel Emotionally, Physically or Spiritually Safe.
You may feel financially safe with him but that’s not enough. He’ll be the one criticizing what you wear or how you do things. A Good Guy may offer constructive criticism but does it in a loving way that encourages your personal growth.
Have you dated any Bad Boys lately? I hope you’ll share your experience by posting your comment here…
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Lisa,
Why do you think the saying , is good guys finish last ? Did a bad boys make it up? Do you think bad guys are more successful in business than good guys? Many of the traits that you mention about bad guys make them successful in business. Yes then they are rich too!
One thing I hear that is very important to a woman is security. They need to feel secure to be all that they can be. Many women seek the bad guys because they offer financial security. All those traits you attribute to a good guy makes a weak business person. Is it congruent to be a good guy at home and a bad guys at work? To be honest I think if there is not a little bad guy in a quality man and he is all good guy, he is pretty lame.
Ted,
As a Southern Lady….when we think of gentlemen we believe that you can dress a rat in a Tuxedo and he look great but you still have a rat.
I’ve known lots of quality men who might not be great in business but have made me feel unbelievably safe and protected. It’s how they treat me and how they appear. It has nothing to do with the amount of money they have.