How to Decide if He is a Quality Man for You
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I want to ask you a question…
What type of measures do you use to gage a Quality Man you’d like to date?
When it comes to choosing men especially online, are you looking for men who are “your type or your idea of a certain look?” Do you wink at them or favor them hoping they will notice you and write you back? Are you so disappointed when they don’t?
And, who does contact you? The men you think you don’t want, right?
Who really is that Quality Man you desire?
I know you might think looks are first, yet have you ever considered looking at men as a total package, evaluating everything they have to offer to a relationship?
Have you ever thought about questions like these when considering a man to date?
- Will he bring you soup when you’re sick?
- Will he stop at the store and get you what you need even if it is a bit out of the way?
- Will he bring you flowers and tell you “I love you” even when it’s not your birthday?
- Will he rearrange his schedule to drive you to the airport so you don’t have to hoist that suitcase out of your car or worry about parking before and after your trip?
- When you’ve had a hard day, will he rub your back or bring you a glass of wine and give you a much-needed hug?
- And, when you’re dating, will he take your trash out to the curb so you don’t have to?
- Or will he get up and do the dishes after dinner?
- And, most importantly, will he look in your eyes like you are the best thing that ever happened to him?
As we are aging, we are going to want more in a partner then just his looks and we will more than likely need more, especially in our golden years. I watched my father take care of my mom as she was dying. He wiped her brow, took her to her chemo treatments, made her soup, and held her hand when she was scared.
My father is adorable – just ask my friends but he would never have been the most handsome man on the block and would probably have been passed over online by lots of women.
Yet it’s his kindness and the love he radiates from within that women of all ages adore about him once they get to know him.
I can’t deny looks are nice. They are. But, next time you are reading those online profiles and you are thinking “Hmm, not so cute” – dig a little deeper and pay attention to what that man is saying.
If he writes that he’s kind, nice, loves his animals and his kids-even when he’s not the most handsome guy on the page, he’s worth checking out.
He’s probably a man with a wonderful heart and a man whose looks could very well grow on you. After getting to know him, he may be like my father is…cute, adorable, loving and there for you through thick and thin.
And that my friend is the true mark of gaging a Quality Man.
Let me know who you think a Quality Man is…
Until next time-
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Your article was very true but I find that the men I have known in the past are narcissists.no one cares about anyone else’s feelings. Good looking or not so good looking. The questions you asked are what I would do but the men only think about themselves. I am going to save this article and keep reading. I think we all have a look we want in a man just like men have a a certain look also. There are also the guys who talk and talk to you an never meet you after weeks and weeks. So frustrating!
Hi Merle
A couple of things here…let’s hit the phone guys first. If they haven’t asked you out by the 2nd or 3rd phone call, it’s ok to suggest meeting. You could say something like….I’m not a great phone person, would love to meet you. That opens the door to a date and if he doesn’t get the hint, it’s time to stop taking his calls. He’s using you for an emotional connection but isn’t willing to put the effort in past that.
Now for the look…which also includes the type, the income or any other specific quality a man has to have for you to date him. When you think you must have certain qualities in a man to date him, you usually end up narrowing your choices of men down to a tiny percentage of who is out there.
I always suggest “Out of the Box” dating to my clients.Take all the qualities you think a man has to have and change one or two like their age or their religion or another part of the city you both live in. Then start looking for men who have those new qualities.
Using “Out of the Box” dating, you’re more likely to get the type of man who will gladly do anything on that list in the blog. I know that’s who I got when I changed my usual type I’d date. I am very blessed to have this man in my life and truthfully, I compiled that list from what he’s done for me. But, to have a man like this in my life, I had to stop dating my usual type-who by the way were all narcissists so I get what you are saying.
Let me know how this “tip” works for you.
Lots of hugs and Good Luck!
Lisa
Screening by income, looks and education has not been working for me.
Hi Nancy,
I can relate…I used to have a TYPE of man I’d date that in reality never worked for me. But, it felt so comfortable like an old shoe you know you should really throw away. And when I finally did throw that TYPE away, I got a great man! To get what you want, you will probably have to change at least one quality you are looking for in a man.
I know my private clients have found this to be one of the biggest factors for finding happiness in their dating life along with “Dating to Date not to Mate.”
Keep me posted!
Lots of hugs
Lisa