What Qualities Make a Great Guy for You?
Every year on the third weekend in October, thanks to Hallmark and American Greetings, we celebrate a holiday called Sweetest Day here in the midwest.
It’s a time to exchange cards and gifts with your sweetheart.
Now I have to admit, I’m really bad at any holiday that requires a card. That’s because I can never read the cards unless I have my glasses on.
Anyway, Sweetest Day was this past Saturday.
My honey and I, along with my dog Levi, were hanging out together on the couch in front of a toasty fire.
I was journaling and my honey was catching up on the latest news and weather… in case you’re interested, they were predicting the first snowfall and frost of the year that day.
My honey got up and said, “I’ll be right back.”
I heard him go outside and the next thing I knew, he was back and giving me a card (I felt so guilty because I didn’t have one for him) and 2 boxes of my all-time favorite candy, Milk Duds.
I got to start the morning off with my favorite candy and a beautiful card!
I loved the card but loved what he wrote even more… “Even though the weather is cold and dreary outside, it’s always warm and cozy when I’m with you. Happy Sweetest Day.”
My heart just melted.
Fast forward to dinnertime.
He says, “Would you like to go out to dinner or can I bring something in?”
We’d been out all afternoon so I said, “Let’s hang out at home.”
He said, “Great. I’m going to surprise you with dinner. Why don’t you go and relax? I’ll be back with dinner in about 45 minutes.”
So I took his words to heart, grabbed a glass of wine, sat on the couch with Levi and read.
My honey walked in about 30 minutes later with a bag behind his back and told me to close my eyes.
I did and he led me to everything he had taken out of the bag.
He’d brought home my favorite meal, lobster and grilled veggies to celebrate Sweetest Day.
I wondered, Who is this man who gives me beautiful cards, my favorite candy and my favorite all time dinner? He is AWESOME!
Yes, he is awesome and yes, I absolutely adore him.
He makes me feel so cherished and adored.
And he is so romantic, super funny, unbelievably charismatic, loves his job and cares so much about me.
But…guess what?
My honey has a bit of a belly.
Shocking, right?
Friday night we went out with one of my couple friends and as we were leaving, my friend Sarah said to me, “He really is a sweetheart, Lisa.”
We’d gone for ribs and he was dressed in a plaid shirt and jeans that were kind of big.
My friends never noticed the big jeans or the plaid shirt that hid the belly.
All they saw was a really good man who treated me well and whose company they enjoyed.
Ok…why do I share this with you?
So many women tell me a man has to be fit, or make a certain income, or has to be this or has to be that to make them happy.
The amazing man I’m with has a belly, could be a little more fit, could eat a little healthier and could watch maybe a little less sports, weather and news on TV…but guess what?
None of that really matters in the bigger scheme of life.
Why? Because he treats me so well and makes me feel so loved and cherished.
We have fun together. My friends like him. My 91-year-old dad and my kids like him. Levi goes nuts over him.
But more importantly, I like him.
He’s so good for me and he makes me feel so treasured.
I’m truly a LUCKY GIRL!
I wanted to share this story with you because I want you to understand that what I have…feeling loved, cherished and adored is what you want to be looking for in a man.
Qualities like these, not his belly or his TV habits are what will make you happy in the long run.
I’ve had clients tell me they’d never have given a guy who wasn’t perfectly fit a chance.
But after working with me, they realized good guys come in all shapes and sizes and once they accepted this, they allowed relationships with men into their lives that truly made them happy.
One of the reasons women over 50 are so unhappy in the dating scene is because they are placing their values on qualities that aren’t going to bring them true happiness.
I want you to really think about this.
I’m going to be sharing more about The Dating Mistakes You’re Making Right Now – And Don’t Even Realize in my FREE, upcoming teleseminar. I’ll give you more details later this week.
In the meantime, think about what makes a good guy for you.
Until next time!
Sending you lots of love and hugs~
Believing in You!
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What makes a good guy for me is treating me with respect, having manners, addiction free, being educated and using that education to move ahead in life, and being attractive to me which yep, includes being healthy and in shape. Just had a guy fly halfway across the country and it didn’t work out mainly because he grossly overstated his fitness level. Not only was I unable to force myself to be attracted, he got severe altitude sickness. Mountain life is not for the out of shape. We were able to go places and sit around; that was it. I am a serious athlete, not a sitting down person. The lives of very active and health conscious folk and those that are neither are not very compatible.
Still paying off debts incurred from 18 years of caretaking my late father who was a poster child of what happens when you don’t take care of yourself. A dozen surgeries, a coupla hospital acquired infections, falls, two heart attacks, three collapses in his home, stuff not taken care of because he was running on a quarter of normal cardiac capacity. This is the prognosis for many guys with bellies, women too unfortunately. Not fat bashing, just stating medical fact. Watching someone you love slowly die is not pretty, especially when the cause is totally preventable. Fortunately, I had sufficient income to help out, get folks to check on him and a flexible work schedule to drive him to/from surgeries, appointments, dialysis etc. Most women aren’t so fortunate. I want a partner that’ll be around and be vital, most women do I’d suspect. Currently seeing a widower 14 years older. Our politics lie on opposite ends of the spectrum but he respects my intellect, treats me like a queen when here, and is a top distance runner in his age group. Does something active every day. It may not work out as it’s tricky with widowers, we may have some major issues with points of view, but we can do things together.