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So many people who find themselves playing the dating game in their fifties have one thing in common, and that is that they never thought they’d have to deal with things like first dates again. Life likes to surprise us though, and sometimes we end up far from where we planned to be. Instead of holding on to the past or lamenting what could have been, face forward and embrace the unknown. Here are the best ways to let go of your past and find love again.
Let go of expectations. If you hold the past up high on a pedestal, the future will never be able to live up to it. If your past was full of love and romance, treasure it for what it was but be open to a different kind of love or romance in the future. You never know, it might even be better now than it was then.
Don’t beat yourself up for mistakes you’ve made. It’s impossible to find someone who hasn’t made any mistakes in their past-we all have! That doesn’t mean that you should punish yourself forever. If you did things you aren’t so proud of in your last relationship, make a promise to yourself that you won’t repeat these mistakes in your next one. Learn, grow and release yourself from guilt.
Do something different. Doing the same old things are going to yield the same old results. If you aren’t happy with the hand you’ve been dealt when it comes to dating, it’s time to shake things up. Instead of waiting for a man to seek you out, sign up for an online dating site and put yourself out there. Ask a trusted friend to set you up with someone she knows, or try out new hobbies and interests that take place in a social environment.
Determine what you want. Finding someone to date isn’t the hard part, finding the right person to date is. Take a moment to really think about what you want in a partner, and determine a list of qualities that they absolutely must have. These are the things you just won’t settle or bend on. This is a great opportunity to evaluate your past and see what worked and what didn’t.
Don’t feel guilty. Many times, we are so used to putting everyone else first that we can’t help but feel a bit guilty when we take the time to date and focus on ourselves. Another aspect of guilt comes into play if you’re beginning to date again after the death of someone you love. You might feel like you are “cheating” on them in some way. Grieving takes a long time, and it’s ok to take it slow, and it’s important to remember that your life should keep moving ahead.
Remember, learn and grow from your past and then let it rest. Live in the moment and let life happily surprise you.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
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3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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I believe a lot of this, has to do with your confidence level. The things you did in the past are now unimportant and its what your doing now that matters. In order to feel good about your self, you need to be happy! So don`t let your past let you down and get out there! Start that social process! This is such great information here!