5 Steps I Followed To Find Love After 50

 

an over 50 couple on a date at a restaurantBack when you were in your teens or early 20’s, you probably didn’t date all that much.

Chances are, you were in an environment like high school or college that was filled with men and women who were single and young just like you.

You hung out together, playing, talking and really getting to know each other before you fell in love and chose to marry.

Fast forward to today where 1 out of 4 over 50’s marriages is ending in divorce.

The judge bangs the gavel declaring you officially divorced, and your friends want to make you feel better by telling you what a great catch you are and that it won’t be long before another man comes into your life.

What they can’t do is tell you exactly how to attract, date and keep a man at this time in your life.

I’d like to share 5 steps I followed to find love in my own life after 50.

Whether you’re a newbie at dating or you just need a push to get you out of a dating rut, I know they can help you too!

 

Step 1 – Rediscover Your Inner Glow

 

The Law of Attraction states that we can only attract someone based on who we are and where we are right now in our life.

In dating, this means you’ll attract a man who will love you only as much as you love yourself.

Sometimes we don’t feel so lovable anymore.

That’s why it’s important to take the time to get back in touch with how incredible you are…YES even as a woman over 50!!!!!

You can do this by finding your inner glow.

It’s there and you can start by making a list of all the things you love in these 4 areas of your life.

  1. Your body
  2. Your personality
  3. What do you love to do or what are you interested in?
  4. And last but not least, you’re greatest passion in life.

I think you’ll be pretty amazed at how special you really are once you do this exercise.

 

Step 2 – Rediscover the Art of Flirting

 

Whether you are meeting men online or in the real world, flirting is the best way to get a man’s attention.

Online, you can flirt by favoring men. In real life, smile and make eye contact for at least 5 seconds.

Or if you’re on a date, lightly touch his arm.

These are all signals that let a man know you’re interested in him.

 

Step 3 – Have 3 “Go To” Dating Outfits In Your Closet

 

When I first started dating, I had absolutely no sense of style.

I’d go rummaging through my closet minutes before I had to leave looking for ‘the perfect outfit’.

Nothing felt right because everything in my closet consisted of jeans and black t-shirts or blouses.

Over time, with help, I developed a sense of style and I bought clothes that brought out my feminine side and made me feel good and look good.

I created 3 dating outfits that reflected the inner glow I was feeling inside that I could put together in a moments notice when I had a date.

Now its your turn….you’ll want to create 3 outfits you love to wear.

Start with your closet…mix and match new combinations of clothes you have to find 3 dating outfits that make you feel like a rock star when you wear them.  

If that doesn’t work, head to your favorite store and see what they have that is fun, new and makes you feel amazing.

When you feel amazing, you glow….and men are very drawn to a woman who feels confident in who she is.

 

Step 4 – Date To Date

 

A man may not be your next mate, but he can be a great date.

He could even turn out to be a great friend who might be perfect for that wedding or party you don’t want to attend alone.

Or he can be fun male companionship on a Saturday night where he buys the tickets and you pick up the popcorn.

Go on dates to have fun meeting someone new and interesting.

Then decide how a man can fit into your life whether he’s going to be a friend, a date or a potential mate.

 

Step 5 – Use The 4 Magic Words Men Love To Hear

 

Ever wonder why men were stepping over themselves to help Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind?

Here’s a hint…Scarlett knew how to make a man feel both important and needed.

In turn, men wanted nothing more than to make her happy.

Men can do the same for you.

If you want a man to make you happy, consider using these 4 magic words, “I need your help,” then watch how this changes your life with men.

Just be sure to thank and appreciate all he does for you.

Want to learn more about men and dating?

Watch your email box over the next couple of days for details on how you can sign up for my NEW FREE Teleseminar filled with expert advice on finding love after 50.

In the meantime, I’d love to hear how these 5 steps are working for you.

Believing in You!

Lisa

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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4 Comments
  1. Hi
    Your plans all sound wonderful! I enjoy reading them very much. Here is my problem. I am not photogenic, horrible pic’s always. I am average looking but I need a pic to pop right?! Often, online, I get no responses on sites like POF, when I post an ad on CL same thing. I am an excellent writer so I get lots of replies to my posts, but the picture thing……
    I am unemployed, really have no friends or network who share single men they may know, that seems to be my job for them. Or $ for a professional at $150 for 45 min.
    I am feeling so disillusioned. I have nice clothes, I don’t know if I look good in any. I don’t know how to flirt, if I am attracted. This has always been my problem, I am shy.
    I am not sure what I am asking but, most of your solutions seem unobtainable to me.
    I was alone for 15 years after divorce and did fine alone. I started dating 3 years ago, had a relationship with a man for 2 years. I broke up with him 4 months ago due to lies and secrets. My fault really as I knew something was wrong, never meeting his kids after 2 years. Now, I can’t handle being alone for the first time in my life. I am stuck and have not met one man who I even want to see again. It seems mutual for them as well.
    Any suggestions?

    Thank you again for your wonderful articles! I appreciate your wonderful expertise!
    Sincerely,
    Patricia

    • Hi Patricia
      I’m sorry dating is such a struggle for you at this time. I’m glad that my articles are helping you. In the Law of Attraction, there is a saying that goes…What We Focus On Is What We Get. Start focusing on what you want versus what you don’t have or think you can’t do. I’d recommend doing a vision board of what you want over the next 5 years. It will give you clarity in following your dreams. And it will help you take the next steps for making them come true. Best of luck on your journey Patricia. Lots of hugs~

  2. There’s a lot of great advice here. Thanks for that.

    I am, however, disturbed by the use of Scarlett O’Hara as any kind of example of how to act with men. She was selfish, conniving and manipulative and didn’t care who she destroyed to get what she wanted. And she certainly did not recognize the quality man she had in Rhett Butler!

    Just saying

    • You are right about Scarlett O’Hara’s behavior. That being said, if you watch the very beginning of the movie where she hasn’t gotten to the height of selfishness and an unawareness of who is and isn’t good for her, you will see she is amazing at flirting and making men her hero. Today many woman still can’t see the man who is good for them and they continue to go after a fantasy like Scarlett did. Thank you for your insights Janet.

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