3 Common Online Dating Mistakes Single Women Over 50 Make
The reason I’m such a strong advocate for online dating is because I know it’s the easiest place to meet single men over 50. The problem is no one gives you the rules for being successful with it.
In fact, I’ve found 3 common mistakes women over 50 consistently make that end up totally frustrating them in their search for Mr. Right.
It’s time to change that. And that’s why I’d like to share these 3 mistakes with you, along with what you can do to successfully find a great guy online.
Mistake #1 – Not Displaying Your Unique You!
Having success finding Quality Men to date online starts with posting a great profile and picture that makes you stand out from everyone else online.
Most women usually list their qualities in their profile as a way of getting a man’s attention. An example is…
I am a kind hearted, professional woman who likes to travel, be around water, shop, and go to movies.
Although a sentence like this gives a lot of information about you…it reads like a dating resume. It’s dry and does nothing to make you stand out. And there’s nothing in it that would get a man excited about meeting you.
Here are two examples of sentences I’ve seen when it comes to describing the men women want to meet.
I’m seeking a man who is truly interested in working on a relationship and willing to give at least 50% to a relationship.
I would like someone who is easy to talk to, comfortable in their own skin, and is willing to enjoy whatever life has to offer.
The first sentence is heavy and a man reads it as this woman is still bitter from a past relationship where a man didn’t give much.
The second sentence is very general and subjective. What comfortable in your own skin means to you could be totally different than what it means to a man. It’s a broad sentence that again won’t engage a man to contact you.
Instead, write the list of qualities you want in a man, then create a story using a couple of those qualities along with one or two of the activities you love to do. This type of profile will engage a man, helping him identify that he’s the one you are looking for.
Clients in my Fun Path to Mr. Right Mentorship Group have discovered how to write this type of profile that gets men jazzed up and excited to meet them.
Mistake #2 – Forgetting To Play
Dating feels like a chore when you don’t know how to play and flirt with men either online or in the real world.
I used to recommend not writing men first because most women would write something like this…
I like your profile. It sounds like we have so much in common. I hope you’ll write me back.
BORING! BORING! STILL BORING!
Go ahead and write a man but be playful. As an example… a man is wearing a suit in his picture. Write him and say something like…
I love when a man wears a suit. He looks really sexy.
It’s flirty, fun and engaging and a man feels good hearing this. A secret about men…They love compliments just like you do and this is the type of flirting that allows you to choose the men you want to go out with, versus always being chosen by men you don’t want.
This is only a nugget of how to flirt again. Flirting is fun and that’s why the second class in the Fun Path to Mr. Right is all about this subject. No one taught you how to do this either online or in the real world. You are still a beautiful, sensual woman and flirting brings this back out in you. It’s unbelievably APPEALING to men!
Mistake #3 – Not Knowing How To Relate To Over 50’s Alpha Men
I’ve found most women want an alpha man in their life. Why? Because he makes her feel safe and protected and that comes directly from the days of the cavemen and the cave women, where a man was responsible for keeping his family safe or they’d die.
Life has changed since then and so have women who are now capable of doing this for themselves. And this has created a HUGE problem for men.
Why? Men don’t feel needed by women our age anymore. And when a man doesn’t feel needed, guess who he turns to? That’s right…a younger women who can make an Alpha Man feel his strongest and best because he’s needed.
Let me ask you a question…Do you know whether you’re an Alpha or a Beta Female? You need to be able to identify this because it’s a major key to who the perfect man is for you.
And it’s exactly what members discover in Class #3 of my Dating Mentorship Group along with how to talk to a man so he can hear you.
Women don’t realize that the way they talk sounds like, “Wah wah wah,” to a man. He tunes you out and as you know, this only frustrates you more.
But if you really get who men are and you know how to talk with them so they hear you…well, they’ll literally jump through hoops and climb over mountains to be there for you. And that feels pretty good!
Wanting a good man in your life is a wonderful dream. Dreams require action from you to make them come true. So…keep reading these blogs, get a copy of my Amazon best seller The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50, come join our dating mentorship group by clicking right here or find out how to work with me one-on-one. You deserve a great guy in your life and I want to help you discover how you can find him and keep him.
“Hi Lisa…. I’m happy to say I’ve learned SO MUCH from Class #1 in the Fun Path to Mr. Right Mentorship Group about writing my profile and the best dating sites for me. Will be updating pictures and working on a new profile this weekend.
“Thanks so much for all your support and wonderful information.” Debbie
Until next time~
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
Love this article? Sign up by clicking here to receive my weekly blog.
Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.
Examples of what not to do are given, but need examples of what to do, what to write.