3 Dating Blunders Single Women Make and What To Do Right Now To Turn Them Around!
Let’s face it: As much as you may want a good guy in your life, finding him as a single woman dating in her 50’s, 60’s and 70’s poses its own set of challenges…challenges that can seem daunting at times.
If you’re like most women this age, you probably didn’t date much when you were younger. In fact, the majority of relationships happened as a result of hanging out with the opposite sex in class, at lunch or at youth events you were both involved with.
I’d be pretty safe saying you didn’t expect to be divorced, single and dating at this time in your life, did you?
Since divorce judges don’t hand you a dating rulebook as you leave the courtroom, you’re left to fend for yourself, figuring dating out on your own.
You find yourself frustrated and sometimes wanting to just give up on your dreams of finding a good guy to share your life with.
Instead of going after what you want, you talk yourself into being satisfied living a life filled by kids and grandchildren.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Dating can be fun and you can get a good guy, especially when you have a plan in place for meeting great men.
Part of the plan is about understanding the blunders you could be making in over 50’s dating that are keeping you feeling challenged and so alone.
Blunder #1. Believing when the time is right, A GOOD GUY will just show up in your life.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if finding a good guy really happened this way? Well, it can but first you must put yourself in situations where he can find you.
What this means is you’ll need to work the dating system so you can find him and he can find you. Make sure you’re on dating sites that are the right fit for you and while you’re at it, turn your friends into Dating Fairy Godmothers who can fix you up.
If you like the idea of finding men “organically,” you’ll want to be in social situations where over 50’s men congregate and you’ll need to know how to approach them when you’re interested.
In The Fun Path to Mr. Right, you can learn the secrets for meeting the good guys you want, how to get them to notice you and exactly what to say once they do.
Blunder #2. Believing you’ll just know he’s the RIGHT GUY when he shows up.
Teenage girls love hanging out with boys. Remember how much fun that was?
You didn’t feel the pressure to find “the one” on your first interaction together. You spent time together at school or at work and you laughed and played as you experienced the things you loved in life.
You put in the time getting to know each other, often spending years together before deciding…Yes, I’d like to spend the rest of my life with this man.
Fast forward a few years…
Today, you go on a coffee date and before the coffee is finished, you’ve figured out whether or not he’s right for you. You don’t play and you don’t just hang with guys as friends like you did when you were younger.
Knowing he’s “the one” on a first date rarely happens.
In fact, when you make such a fast decision, you often miss a lot of guys who would have made great friends to hang out with, or possible boyfriends if you’d given then the chance… like you did when you were younger.
Next time when you meet a nice guy, spend time playing and having fun, seeing how you might fit in each other’s lives. Being around male energy – even when he’s just a friend – is a lot better than sitting at home alone every Saturday night.
Blunder #3. Giving up too quickly.
I’ve had women tell me that when five dates in a row didn’t work out, they wanted to quit dating. This is about the time they came to me frustrated and looking for help.
What I shared with them is that they’d created a picture of who a man was based on the words he wrote and the picture he posted online.
Having expectations before you meet sets you up for failure, especially when a guy turns out to be totally different than the way he portrayed himself online.
When this happens, you can end up feeling depressed and hopeless about ever finding your guy.
So here’s what you can do instead. Go on future dates with the mind set of… I’m going to meet someone new and interesting today.
This will make dating far more fun for you. Plus, it will keep you from making snap judgments about who you think a man is.
Persistence is the name of the game when it comes to dating. Take breaks when you need to, but get back out there when you can because your guy is out there waiting for you to find him.
If you need help and are ready to do what it takes to find your guy, I’m here for you. Just click this link https://findaqualityman.com/1-on-1-coaching/ and we’ll set up a time to chat.
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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On my 60th birthday, my husband gave me a great party. We had cake, ice cream and a clown who made balloon animals. He died before my 66th. I just turned 80 and still feel great. I garden for many who are younger than I who can’t or won’t get down on their knees and weed. I believe most aging is all in the head. I would enjoy having someone special in my life but who would put up with all the cats.
Thank you Jody for sharing your story with me. My 91 year old father is just like you…he leads an active healthy life and that’s what makes him so amazingly youthful. I think I need to take a page from both of your books. Thanks you 🙂
Hello! I just bought your book and read it, and it’s great! Lots of truth in there…
Anyway, just to say: don’t fret about entering your sixth decade of life—in fact, you are finishing your sixth decade of life at 59! Yup: 0-10, 11-20, etc. – count ’em!
What I do to ward off this angst: I compare the upcoming round number (or any other) with one about 10 higher, and then—voilà—the one I was worrying about doesn’t seem like such a big deal! So, compare 59 to 69 – 59 is SO YOUNG! (And anyway, it’s better than the alternative!).
Hope that cheers you up – time for the tables to be turned!
-Susan
Love what you wrote Susan. Thank you so much for the wonderful idea! Glad you enjoyed my book and that it was helpful to you.
Age is just a number ! Count your blessings, you are healthy and happy
Enjoy your Birthday !!!
Thank you Karin. My dad is 91 and is amazing cause he stays active. You are right…it is just a number. So appreciate your thoughts 🙂
Am happly for u
Thank you 🙂
I am so impressed with these 3 blunders you have shared. It was inspiring me and awakes me up now. I felt frustrated and sometimes wanting to just give up on my dreams of finding a good guy because I met a lot of men on the dating sites but seem not work out for me.
Thank you very much with these great ideas. I will use it right away with my journey of finding my good guy. Sorphea